**What do u mean when u say........

I love u?

4 centuries people have been using this phrase to start an intimate relationship. To gain proximity, Without realizing what the hell they mean by that. So what do u mean when u say "I love u". U mean u like me 4 what I am or 4 what i ve or upto now i am living up to ur expectations and meeting ur terms and conditions.


Every individual has his own criteria and terms and conditons to love others. yeah its true. For eg. u love tom (ur boy friend) to death. y? cos he is cute,sexy,caring,affectionate,polite or watever. He gives me the time i deserve and above all he is not
cheating on me as long as i know.

But not every day is sunday. Time and circumstances change everything .Now ur bf can't give u the time u deserve cos he is busy with his work. He is so busy these days that he has put on weight. Since he spends more time with his colleagues than with u, so he may develop liking 4 someone at the work place.



But he is a good guy, so he will try to suppress his feelings and desires. After all he doesnt want to cheat on u. Now he is trying really hard these days cos he is being seduced by his sexy colleague who is not satisfied with her huby.



Now after trying hard all day and meeting the deadlines of targets and other things he comes home to find out that his gf is screaming at him cos today he was supposed to come 2 hrs early 4 the britney spears concert. Now u ve ruined my evening. Tom u dont love me the way u used to. Said the angry gf.


Now comes the weekend. Tom and his gf at a food joint. Tom doesnt like chocolate flavored ice cream any more unlike her gf who still loves it more than anything else in this world. Y u ve ordered vanilla my dear. Said the gf. I dont like chocolate
any more Said Tom .Over years tom liking 4 chocolate has diminished. But u like tom cos he is so much like u. We share common interest .That’s y i befriended him in the first place.


Tom is not eager to loose weight. cos he is 2 busy with his work and doesnt want 2 spend his late evenings in a gym sweating, just cos u want him 2 be in shape all the time. But he was in great shape when me met the first time. u know this. Thats y i
befriended him in the first place.


Tom has been strongly influenced by his friends at the workplace. Now he has become materialistic. which u ve never liked .Tom has changed .i.e. he no longer lives up to ur expectations any more. Now the time has come to make him live up to my
expectaions. Tom i want u 2 be fit. I want u 2 spend quality time with me(i.e. the time u think is reasonably enough to be considered as quality time).


I want my old tom back (ie the tom that used to live up to my expectations and met my terms and conditions). Now the harder part. Tom doesnt want to be the old tom any more y? cos he likes the way he is. But he has 2 please her gf also. As he loves her. So he will try half heartedly just 2 show off. He will go to
gym late in the evening. He will swallow the chocolate ice cream. He will make sure that he doesn’t do anything which he didn’t do early in the relationship.


This is known as trying hard 2 survive the relationship. The moment u start trying, ur relationship is about 2 get over. And it
happended. One day tom didn’t go to the gym and instead went with his sexy colleague to a club(who likes him cos he is able to live up to his expectations). u spotted him with his colleague. And
here the last excuse u needed, Tom has cheated on u. How dare he. U slapeed him in the public. Relationship over.


Poor baby. Said the colleague. Tom happy cos he doesnt ve to change himself now any more and his new partner loves him (cos he is able to live up to her expectation up to now).

Whereas u r single once again. Looking 4 someone who can live up to ur expectation and follow ur own unsaid terms and conditions 4 eternity.


Change is inevitable. If u can accept the change u can stay in a relationship 4 ever. If u cant. u will change partners throughout ur life.